tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16681504091015432262024-02-06T21:17:14.746-05:00Living with IntentionAs I celebrate the beginning of the last year of my 20's, I am inspired by the idea of making a list of 30 things to do before turning 30... And then do them! Here goes nothing!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-54830142293695389602012-11-14T10:56:00.000-05:002012-11-14T10:56:08.121-05:00Some unfinished business...Well, it has been about 9 months since I last posted on this blog and I find myself grateful for all that the blog set into motion in my life. Although I haven't been consistent with posting on the blog, I have found myself living with greater intention and focusing on many of my goals (lots of healthy baking, putting laundry away-sometimes, buying local, taking risks, touring wineries, reading the Sunday Times and many more....) and have still left some room for growth (moderation in Facebooking... getting involved in a book club, etc). I've continued to blog with my students for class, posting on different blogs that they follow where I post links to articles with my personal reflections and/or questions for their reflection. But I'd like to get back into blogging with no real goal in mind other than creating a space to reflect, process and learn.<br />
I just read a <a href="http://www.americamagazine.org/content/article.cfm?article_id=13694">beautiful reflection</a> by Margaret Silf in America Magazine about unfinished business. She told the story of a young woman who ran the London Marathon earlier this year at age 30, raising money for the Samaritans. For those not familiar, the Samaritans are the people whose signs you see as you approach a bridge, offering a phone number that will support people feeling hopeless and suicidal. This young woman tragically died just short of the finish line and as her story spread, heartstrings were tugged around the world. She had raised $500 for the Samaritans, but within days, over $1,000,000 had been donated to the Samaritans in her name. Silf makes the connection between this beautiful memorial for a woman who didn't finish her race and all the things unfinished in our lives:<br />
"Perhaps such a memorial could stand for each of us, in our own way. We
run the race, we do our best, we try, but so often we fall short of
completion. We don’t quite get there. We fall at the last fence. We want
to bring a masterpiece to God, but all we manage is a child’s drawing, a
rough sketch, an unfinished dream. If we think of our shortcomings as a
failure, then thinking of the “last things” may well fill us with
dread. But what if we could think of them not as something we didn’t
finish, but rather as a seed whose blossom and fruit we cannot yet see
or begin to imagine?"<br />
There are often days when I feel like a child's drawing instead of a Picasso... I walk into class with a great plan and somehow, it just doesn't happen. It doesn't go the way I imagined, I can't seem to steer us in the direction I want to go or the questions I thought would provoke a mind-blowing conversation lead to minutes of awkward silences. One of my goals when I began this blog was to focus on the positive... to see the glass half full and imagine the possibility instead of focusing on what has yet to be realized. I think that's exactly what Silf is challenging us to do. As we approach Advent, I'd like to think of it as a time to be intentional, to turn things I might regret or wish I'd done into reality, or as Silf says, turn them into conscious acts of love. <br />
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-48138484804147364252012-02-13T09:05:00.000-05:002012-02-13T09:05:13.374-05:00Exploring possibilitiesAs a new semester began at school just two weeks ago, I found myself full of energy and anticipation, excited to explore the possibilities that a new semester held. One of my major new projects is blogging. Though It has been a few weeks since I have blogged on this site, I have developed and am currently maintaining a new blog for my classes. Each student is thus blogging as part of their coursework... So far the topics have included identity, sexuality in the media and currently we are looking at love, the idea of 'soul mates' and the diverse descriptions of love in music. I love how some of the students get so excited about blogging, and also how this allows the students to regularly read each others' insights and reflections. It is also a way to connect them with some other spiritual and religious resources on the web, that perhaps they might utilize in their future as they continue their faith formation in college and beyond.
I was definitely energized coming back to work after a week off that included a trip to Saint John USVI with my family. There is something therapeutic about warm weather, crystal clear water and sunshine. I am so grateful!
This year, well the last six weeks, have been a time of loss as I've been exploring the possibility of weight loss! So far I just hit my ten pound goal (the first of many goals). I am using weight watchers online and have found their program to coincide with the original concept behind my blog... To live with intention. Eating with intention means thinking about what I am eating, why I am eating it, and keeping track of what I am consuming... To avoid excess, to find balance between indulgence and healthy maintenance. Common sense really, but in our culture of excess, I have to constantly remind myself to have boundaries (and to stick to them!) so WW provides a user-friendly format to do just that.
Here's to continued exploration... The possibilities are endless!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-46327638515414897892012-01-18T17:01:00.001-05:002012-01-18T17:01:15.897-05:00Religion and JesusLast week, a youtube video went viral on Facebook about Jesus and religion. The video, aptly entitled "Why I hate religion, but love Jesus", is one man's poetic 'witness' of his negative experience with organized religion. Though there were certainly many lines that I would adamantly disagree with, there were many I'd have to admit were thoughtful and significant critiques of the way organized religion has perhaps lost its focus in many contexts. Check it out for yourself<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IAhDGYlpqY"> here!</a> <br />
I think one of his most poignant critiques questions priorities: why do Churches spend money building fancy churches when they fail to feed the poor? He asks a similar question in different forms, getting to the heart of faith and religion: do we practice what Jesus preached? Not do we practice what <i>WE</i> preach, but are we authentically faithful to the Gospel? The answer must always be no, because we are not perfect. However, are we moving in that direction? Do our choices and actions reflect right intention? In the recent announcement of plans to close and consolidate schools in the Archdiocese of Philadelphia, I found great consolation and respect for our new Archbishop when he simultaneously announced the sale of the extravagant Bishop's residence in the city (complete with a three-hole putting green, in-ground pool, etc.) This shows our priorities and intention are consistent with what we preach. <br />
The young man in this youtube video certainly had a difficult experience with one brand of religion, as he describes being a 'good church-going boy' on Sunday but partying, having sex and being addicted to pornography the rest of the week. Ultimately, his experience of religion was just something for show, a veneer that didn't cut to the core of its believers. This is inauthentic religion, certainly, but I do not think one can jump to the assumption that all religion has this affect on people. I look at people who have been martyrs for their faith, including some religious sisters who have died trying to bring justice to people such as <a href="http://www.commondreams.org/headlines05/0215-03.htm">Sister Dorothy Stang, SND</a>. They were compelled to seek this justice based in their religion and authentic personal relationship with Jesus. Can religion help us to encounter Jesus on a personal level, lead us to truly live our beliefs instead of merely 'showing up' or saying what we think people want to hear? In my experience, the answer is a resounding yes. But it depends on many things, including your willingness to go 'deeper' and finding a faith community that both nurtures you and challenges you... and both of those are not easy things to do or find!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-38743330999127559492012-01-07T11:03:00.001-05:002012-01-07T12:24:31.065-05:00Anger, hurt... and then some.The big announcement came, after much anticipation and speculation,
and 49 schools in the Archidocese of Philadelphia will close or combine
at the end of this school year. It was a day of angst for many who
waited to hear if their schools were on 'the list' and the afternoon
brought sadness for all, even if their own school wasn't one that would
be closed. Sadness because Catholic education as we know it is forever
changed, and for many it will not be an option in the future. This is
not just a local phenomenon either, as Catholic schools throughout the
country are facing similar questions of closing and/or consolidation. <br />
It
is particularly troubling from the angle of justice. Many of the young
children, particularly in the inner city, who depend on Catholic
education as an alternative to their neighborhood public schools will be
forced to attend the school district of Philadelphia, with a high
school graduation rate of 56% over four years. Now, when the Catholic
schools close or consolidate, there are alternative sites where the
students can attend (the schools that weren't on the list). But for
many, the distance to travel is too far or poses difficulty for parents
who may need to accompany their children to school. Additionally, many
of the economically disadvantaged students have received scholarships or
decreased tuition, which is becoming (or has become) a rarity in the
current economic climate in the Catholic Church. So, these kids are
left to fend for themselves, in schools where violence is a given on a
daily basis. They'll pass through metal detectors on their way to
homeroom. They'll sit in over-sized classrooms without sufficient
learning materials and try to be among the 56% who graduate. This
doesn't seem fair, or at least, it doesn't seem to be true to the
message of Jesus.<br />
I was educated in public school up until high
school. But, I am fairly certain had I attended the public school in my
hometown, I'd be just as successful (if not more) than I am, having
attended a Catholic high school. I grew up in an area (at the time at
least-- they've been affected by budget problems, too) where the public
schools provided an excellent education in an environment that was
caring, loving, and an extension of our community. I am still friends
with some of my (public) grade school teachers on facebook and our
families regularly exchange Christmas cards. So I didn't have to face
the dire circumstances in Philadelphia public schools as a child. But
I've seen them firsthand when I was a social worker. It's not pretty.
It's depressing in many of the schools. And Catholic education provided
an alternative, a safer option, providing not just physical safety but
also a sense of stability and empowerment for kids who might not get
that at home.<br />
Do we give up hope, then?<br />
Well, just because
you asked... there is a wonderful new model of Catholic education about
to make its debut in Philadelphia that provides that element of hope for
the kids I am describing. The Cristo Rey Network will open the doors
of its first Philadelphia-area high school in September of 2012 to 125
freshmen. Cristo Rey is a coeducational high school, the product of
collaboration between various religious orders in the US to provide
affordable Catholic education and expose them to career opportunities to
populations of students who may not otherwise be able to attend (often
due to economic circumstances). Cristo Rey has a different model of
school, as students typically attend classes four days a week and then
work one day per week. Their placements provide job training, spark
curiosity for future career options, and help to defray the cost of
tuition for the students. The school day is extended and the school
year is extended, providing a community setting for students and their
families to be involved and benefit from this unique opportunity. Oh,
and their graduation and college acceptance rate? <a href="http://www.phillycr.org/">Um, 99%!</a>
(check out their website) Yes. So there is hope, in the creative
vision of people who are seeking, living and advocating for the
voiceless. Thank God.<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-71159854772424314462012-01-05T19:48:00.004-05:002012-01-05T19:48:58.246-05:00HomeAs a Catholic school teacher at a private, independent all-girls school in the Philadelphia area, I have hard a constant stream of commentary, angst and fear over the coming pronouncement tomorrow that upwards of 40 (or more) diocesan schools will close or consolidate at the end of this academic year. This will represent the single largest consolidation/closure of its kind in the Church's history in the US, and it will be announced the day after Cardinal John Newman's feast day. Newman is the founding of the Catholic school system here in Philadelphia, a model that spread throughout the nation. It focused on parish-based schools, which in turn fostered a strong sense of identity based on neighborhood. I remember when I first moved to Philadelphia and came to know people who grew up in the area. When you asked where someone was from, the answer was almost always _____ parish. Not their town, not their street, not their geographic location in the sense that I understood 'home'. Your parish is your home. That has changed significantly over the years in Philadelphia as some parishes and schools have already consolidated, but tomorrow will create a whole new era of Catholic identity, parish life and education in Philadelphia, and in the United States. One of my co-workers and dear friends who is born and raised in Philadelphia, put it so poignantly: "<span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">People
from Philadelphia identify with their parish and where they went to
high school. Our families have supported the Archdiocese Of Philadelphia
for generations and we are proud and grateful to have experienced what
many of us call the best four years of our lives. Some may call it a
sign of the times but I have other words for it. I will be praying for
hundreds of teachers and students who will be displaced."</span><br />
<span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">There is anger and hurt, questions about why the numbers attending schools are so low, where the money given to parish collections on Sunday is actually going, and an overall distrust and frustration on the behalf of many. And yet we must move forward and carry on, realizing that though the form and structure might be different, we still need to do the work of forming 'home' and relationship for people and with God. Maybe it is unfair for me to speak so optimistically on this topic. After all, my school/home/place of employment is not under threat of closing down. My heart breaks, and my heart beat gets faster when I think about what that would mean to me if I were that personally affected. And some of my friends and companions will be. What can we do? Choose to stay, to claim our Catholic identity and re-build this broken Church to reflect the image of home and family that Saint John Newman and Jesus Christ envisioned (and that many of us have been blessed to experience at times). </span><br />
<span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}">And so we pray with, and for, those who will be displaced, those in leadership positions, and those whose sense of 'home' will forever be changed. We stand in solidarity, refusing to give up and pledging support and ultimately we look to God for what's next.</span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-348535116142724332011-12-31T11:12:00.001-05:002011-12-31T11:34:29.473-05:00Perhaps I already have enough to do all my work?In the face of new year's resolutions, the cultural process of making plans to lose weight, exercise more, etc., I have decided to not set any new goals or resolutions. For one, this blog and year of living intentionally is certainly a work in progress... and the progress has been waining of late (though I am happy to report I successfully put away all new Christmas clothes, organized my closets and even weeded out some clothes to donate- returning to goal # 19!!) I am grateful for the sense of new beginning that comes with a 'new year', as an opportunity to re-focus my efforts and consider who I am becoming in the coming year. In addition to already having some goals set, I think a different way of approaching the new year is to focus on embracing trust in myself and God, that I can achieve, become, learn and grow. Instead of focusing on the end results or goals, I'd like to focus on the process, the journey and a way of being.<br />
A New York Times writer just finished a great piece on the Jesuit retreat center in Wernersville, PA. This retreat center provided me with two very significant retreat experiences in my college life, times when I was particularly struggling and felt a bit lost. The retreat space, both physical and spiritual, provided time to listen, to stop filling the silence with music, conversation, tv, reading and all the other 'stuff' of my life, and really hear God's voice speaking to me in my thoughts, prayers, dreams and sometimes just in the comfortable silence. One of the lines from the<a href="http://travel.nytimes.com/2012/01/01/travel/in-pennsylvania-a-quick-shot-of-peace-on-a-budget.html?pagewanted=all&smid=fb-share"> NYTimes article</a> seemed to encapsulate it all, as her spiritual director suggested, what if you already have enough to do all of your work? To really believe and to know... to have the confidence and trust that with God, you have all that you need to face whatever life brings you. To thrive, to attain fulfillment, and to live our life in trust. Worrying less and having confidence in one's self and God.... Yes, please. I'd like that.<br />
Father Jim Martin, SJ, a great spiritual writer of late, posted a list of 12 "Really stupid things I'd like to never do again". His style of writing is accessible to me, as I can relate to what he describes and instead of feeling shame, he helps me to laugh at myself and my many human weaknesses. The first item on his list is about comparing... Something that facebook continues to invoke in me, so that after I spend thirty minutes reading my newsfeed and looking at peoples' pictures, I often log off feeling a little less jovial than I did when I logged on. It doesn't happen every time I log off, but often enough that I realize I need to compare myself less... and maybe get back to that goal of spending less time on facebook. Here's what Fr. Jim had to say about it: <strong>Compare. </strong> Ever heard the saying "Compare and despair"?
Comparing yourself to someone else usually means that you imagine the
other person is better off, more satisfied -- in a word, happier. But
here's the problem: We end up comparing what we know about our life,
which is a mixed bag of good and bad, with a fantasy of someone else's
supposedly "perfect" life. Why do we do this? Because we know all about
our own problems, but other people's problems are harder to see. As a
result, our real life always loses out. That leads to despair. Besides,
there's probably someone comparing his or her life to your supposedly
perfect one -- which shows you how ridiculous it all is.<br />
The rest of his article is <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rev-james-martin-sj/12-really-stupid-things-to-never-do-again_b_1174709.html?ref=religion">here</a> if you're willing to look in the mirror and reflect on some perhaps 'stupid' stuff you do, too. Bring your sense of humor!<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-65780069279502740462011-12-29T10:54:00.000-05:002011-12-29T10:54:41.655-05:00Witness to passion and hopeIn the days leading up to Christmas break from school, a former student came to visit and speak with my classes about her experiences studying and doing service in El Salvador. Claire is a junior at Boston College, and participated in an alternative study-abroad program run through Santa Clara University in CA. Santa Clara sponsors a program based in San Salvador, which enables students from Jesuit (and some non-Jesuit) schools throughout the US study at the University of Central America in addition to serving at various praxis sights throughout the country. It is based upon the principles of liberation theology and solidarity, enabling students from North America to walk with the people of El Salvador and learn from them. <br />
Listening to Claire's stories and watching the passion and fire in her heart as she described who she met and all that she learned, I found myself deeply moved. There is something about working alongside the poorest of the poor that puts things in perspective a bit, pointing out what really matters: relationship, love, compassion and laughter... and points out the insanity that we often get caught up in, particularly in the Christmas season: money, competition, power and status. It is easy to lose sight of what 'really matters' living in a culture that often emphasizes 'stuff' over 'people'. But there are moments of grace, insights into the beauty of love and relationship, that ground me back in the realization of what brings true, deep and long-lasting fulfillment. <br />
I was wasting some time yesterday on Facebook and saw a picture of another former student who goes to Saint Joe's, and she was participating in 'Unity Week', what used to be called 'Rainbow Week'... a week of events that emphasize understanding and acceptance of all people, focused primarily on sexual orientation. It made me smile, excited to imagine what this young woman and so many others will do to help bring change and compassion to our world. It just so happened that I spent the afternoon yesterday having coffee with Claire, and this other young woman happened to be at the same coffee house meeting with another former teacher from our high school... Truly, what are the chances? God's hand, providing inspiration and hope! <br />
It's easy to get disillusioned with the 'Church' or the world in general, to focus on what isn't or what should/could be. But it is truly inspiring and gives me great hope to see these two young women, in a sea of thousands (or millions!) of passionate, inspired and motivated young people, ready to set the world on fire!<br />
I received this poem from a friend this Christmas, and find its message to be truly profound and challenging. Enjoy and Merry Christmas :)<br />
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Much of my thought and prayer this Advent with Mary has been about trust and anticipation... awaiting the unknown and yet trusting that all will be well, even if we can't always see how that will unfold. This speaks to me on many levels of my life and I imagine it always will. The myth of certainty and guarantees has been fed to all of us in America. If you do x, y will be the result. And yet, there are many other variables that aren't included in that original equation. I can't control what other people say, I can't control health and illness, I can't control accidents, I can't control the actions of others.... but I can only control my response... and like Mary, I can trust.<br />
A beautiful prayer and poem on the Annunciation, that moment of radical trust and assurance in the face of uncertainty and fear:<br />
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We know the scene: the room, variously furnished,<br />
almost always a lectern, a book; always<br />
the tall lily.<br />
Arrived on solemn grandeur of great wings,<br />
the angelic ambassador, standing or hovering,<br />
whom she acknowledges, a guest.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .1pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: .1pt; mso-para-margin-bottom: .01gd; mso-para-margin-left: 0in; mso-para-margin-right: 0in; mso-para-margin-top: .01gd;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">But we are told of meek obedience. No one mentions<br />
courage.<br />
The engendering Spirit<br />
did not enter her without consent.<br />
God waited.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .1pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: .1pt; mso-para-margin-bottom: .01gd; mso-para-margin-left: 0in; mso-para-margin-right: 0in; mso-para-margin-top: .01gd;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">She was free<br />
to accept or to refuse, choice<br />
integral to humanness.<br />
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Aren’t there annunciations<br />
of one sort or another<br />
in most lives?<br />
Some unwillingly<br />
undertake great destinies,<br />
enact them in sullen pride,<br />
uncomprehending.<br />
More often<br />
those moments<br />
when roads of light and storm<br />
open from darkness in a man or woman,<br />
are turned away from<br />
in dread, in a wave of weakness, in despair<br />
and with relief.<br />
Ordinary lives continue.<br />
God does not smite them.<br />
But the gates close, the pathway vanishes.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .1pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: .1pt; mso-para-margin-bottom: .01gd; mso-para-margin-left: 0in; mso-para-margin-right: 0in; mso-para-margin-top: .01gd;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"> ______________________________</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .1pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: .1pt; mso-para-margin-bottom: .01gd; mso-para-margin-left: 0in; mso-para-margin-right: 0in; mso-para-margin-top: .01gd;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">She had been a child who played, ate, slept<br />
like any other child – but unlike others,<br />
wept only for pity, laughed<br />
in joy not triumph.<br />
Compassion and intelligence<br />
fused in her, indivisible.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .1pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: .1pt; mso-para-margin-bottom: .01gd; mso-para-margin-left: 0in; mso-para-margin-right: 0in; mso-para-margin-top: .01gd;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">Called to a destiny more momentous<br />
than any in all of Time,<br />
she did not quail,<br />
only asked<br />
a simple, 'How can this be?'<br />
and gravely, courteously,<br />
took to heart the angel’s reply,<br />
perceiving instantly<br />
the astounding ministry she was offered:</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: .1pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-right: 0in; margin-top: .1pt; mso-para-margin-bottom: .01gd; mso-para-margin-left: 0in; mso-para-margin-right: 0in; mso-para-margin-top: .01gd;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;">to bear in her womb<br />
Infinite weight and lightness; to carry<br />
in hidden, finite inwardness,<br />
nine months of Eternity; to contain<br />
in slender vase of being,<br />
the sum of power –<br />
in narrow flesh,<br />
the sum of light.<br />
Then bring to birth,<br />
push out into air, a Man-child<br />
needing, like any other,<br />
milk and love –<br />
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but who was God. </span></div>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-74277314326298211582011-12-13T16:16:00.000-05:002011-12-13T16:16:17.990-05:00Taking the timeOver the past few days, I had the opportunity to accompany 49 of my senior students on a 3 day overnight retreat. In the days that proceeded the retreat, I felt like I was burning the candle at both ends... I found myself with meetings scheduled before and after school everyday in addition to meetings scheduled during my lunch and prep periods. There was hardly time to breathe while I was in the school building, and yet I realized that I am often most productive when I am most busy. But, as retreat showed me, I also need to make the time to slow down, to listen, and to just 'be'. When I feel pulled in so many different directions, scheduling time for down time becomes another thing to do and I put myself in autopilot. Not exactly the way I planned to spend Advent.<br />
Advent is a time of listening, of preparing and anticipating. What are some ways we can better do this? Retreat was a chance for me to plug back in to my spiritual desire to be aware of God's presence in my life, both in the big things and in the little moments. It is being more aware of the twinkle of the lights on my Christmas tree, driving around new neighborhoods to delight in their holiday cheer, or in the sipping of a cup of peppermint tea while snuggled under the covers on a particularly cold night. I guess that is why I started this whole blog in the first place, to be more aware and intentional. At the point of my half birthday and subsequent six month anniversary of my blog, it is a perfect time to check in and reconnect with my purpose and desire. <br />
Peace and joy to all in this season of Advent!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-36205640055662449852011-11-23T15:30:00.000-05:002011-11-23T15:30:25.486-05:00How has a month passed??I was just saying to a friend this morning, I feel like the last few weeks have passed by in a blur... I don't know what exactly made that happen, though I certainly think it is connected with the fact that I haven't blogged nor gathered with my faith sharing group (well, I did go once, but that was the night we were watching the moving Bridesmaids...) It is essential to slow down every once in awhile, to listen, to contemplate and to just 'be'. I hope in the coming days of travel to different states and visiting with friends and family that we can all remember that- the importance of pausing, giving thanks, and soaking it all in. Otherwise, life does really fly by.<br />
I was moved by a beautiful article in the Philadelphia Inquirer by one of my favorite columnists about how her year has been pretty difficult, but being able to meet people and tell their compelling stories gives her much to be thankful for- and also grounds her in the realization that although life is difficult at times, we all have much to be thankful for. Get inspired <a href="http://www.philly.com/philly/news/20111123_Ronnie_Polaneczky__This_year__more_than_ever__I_m_thankful_for_your_tales.html?viewAll=y">here</a> !<br />
Looking ahead, Ryan and I are going to host some friends for Thanksgiving next weekend... but we also volunteered to do a portion of the cooking for my side of the family tomorrow... some tasty recipes are on the way, and here's a look at a couple I am just dying to eat tomorrow!<br />
<a href="http://www.realsimple.com/food-recipes/browse-all-recipes/cider-glazed-turkey-00100000068254/index.html">Cider glazed Turkey</a><br />
<a href="http://www.realsimple.com/food-recipes/browse-all-recipes/bourbon-gravy-00100000068270/index.html">Bourbon gravy</a><br />
<a href="http://www.realsimple.com/food-recipes/browse-all-recipes/onion-rolls-00100000068372/index.html">Onion rolls</a><br />
<a href="http://www.finecooking.com/recipes/balsamic-glazed-brussels-sprouts-pancetta.aspx">Balsamic glazed Brussels Sprouts with BACON!</a><br />
So in addition to the delicious food items listed above I'd like to do a grateful list for the coming month until Christmas.... each day, at least five things I am grateful for. Here we go:<br />
1) The yoga studio in my neighborhood. Full of amazing women, challenging practices, and ways to learn about myself without judgement (I try at least) and grow in physical and spiritual ways.<br />
2) My dog Annie who snuggles up in my lap if I am sitting on the floor, along my side if I am in bed and always greets me with the excitement and joy that instantly brightens any day.<br />
3) Ryan, my husband, who appreciates and enjoys the little things in life and keeps my smiling and laughing... and always makes sure I see the moon in all its beauty when we are walking Annie.<br />
4) Seeing a former teacher from work today who is serving in Nicaragua as a missionary- listening to her passionate faith, trust and compassion moves mountains in my heart.<br />
5) Knowing that Christmas break is just 4 weeks away! Woo hoo!<br />
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Happy Thanksgiving all! Blessings and joy to you and yours :)Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-75745726940043378492011-10-22T18:57:00.000-04:002011-10-22T18:57:13.932-04:00The gift of laughterYesterday I found myself in a state of delirious laughter throughout my day. I was exhausted... the week had brought some late nights and early mornings due to relying on one car and other work-related and haircut-related events. And although at times my fatigue can make me a cranky, difficult-to-be-around type of person, it seemed to turn me into a gurgling baby who laughs at the slightest gesture or silly face. My students had me laughing hysterically when they told me my new haircut made me look 'young' and 'hip'... so my previous look was old and homely?! Or as I waited for Ryan to pick me up after school, I had tears in my eyes as some of the fellow teachers and I reminisced about funny moments over the last few years including some pretty hilarious Halloween costumes and related awkward situations. It made me appreciate that even when things seem stressful, exhausting or frustrating, laughter can be the best medicine. I was just reading a great article from <a href="http://ncronline.org/blogs/my-table-spread/we-laugh-because-we-know-who-we-are">NCR</a> entitled "We laugh because we know who we are" and one little story particularly struck a chord with me: <br />
'We lose our tempers and our dignity and our way. We misspeak, misstep and mess up. If we live long enough, we end the way we began, wearing diapers and eating baby food, waiting for someone to change and feed us. Pretty funny, when you think about how much time we spend protecting our dignity, our appearance and our position.<br />
I remember a night years ago when my father was as angry as he was drunk. He resolved to go up to the bedroom he shared with my mother and lock -- really lock -- the door. He would show us. To that end, he grabbed a hammer and a can of nails. He weaved his way up the stairs, yelling at us that we would no longer be able to make his life a living hell, or words to that effect.<br />
My father slammed the door. Soon, we heard the sounds of nails being hammered into the doorframe, mingled with the sounds of the hammer missing the nails and hitting the wood.<br />
Now my parents’ bedroom was a large single space above the two-car garage. I don’t think the builder planned it as a bedroom, since it had neither closets nor an adjoining bath. Its primary virtue as a bedroom was its distance from mine.<br />
The evening had been long and loud. My mother and I were tired. We stood silently at the bottom of the stairs, listening to the sounds of wood splintering above us.<br />
I was about to turn and go to bed when my mother gestured towards the stairs and drawled, “Un-huh. Just wait till he needs to pee.”<br />
A beat, then I started to laugh. My mother started to laugh. We looked at one another and began to howl, full out eyes-watering, nose-running, snorting laughter.<br />
I don’t remember how long we laughed that night, but I do remember how the gloom evaporated and the power of my father’s wrath was destroyed. I think it was the image of my father pulling out the nails, one by one, in a race against time (not to mention his bowels and bladder) that dispelled the sense of his power.<br />
Free men and women laugh. They laugh because they know who they are, and who they are is not God, upper or lower case. Indeed, laughter may be the surest way to know and acknowledge one’s place in the cosmos, one’s place as creature and not creator.'<br />
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Though the story is obviously heart-breaking in some respects, it also celebrates the power of laughter and joy and its ability to overcome suffering and anger. One of my favorite writers of late, Fr. Jim Martin, just published a book about the importance of laughter and joy, particularly in the spiritual life. He makes the connection that humor shows hospitality, and we can make people feel welcome by laughing together. What a simple, and yet insightful point to make. Often when I am teaching about specific areas of sexuality, I have to pause and point out the fact that some of the words are just so awkward to say, and it helps to break the ice and sets me at ease (and hopefully my students!!). Fr. Jim created a mini-video about an experience he had while traveling in Africa and how humor made him feel comfortable among strangers in a somewhat awkward situation. Check it out <a href="http://www.catholictv.com/shows/default.aspx?seriesID=19&videoID=2125">here</a>.<br />
As life continues to unfold and I realize that much of life is out of my control (often to my dismay), I find myself better suited to laugh than to fight against it... It might be laughing at the amazing dance that Ryan and I do in imitation of a Patriots player (it involves doing criss-cross motions with your hands over your knees while simultaneously kicking up your feet- one at a time- and staying on your heels-- just ask me to do it, preferably in a crowded public place) or watching someone really get down, singing and dancing to music while sitting in bumper to bumper traffic, or just laughing at myself... my ridiculous attempts to be 'edgy' and 'hip' and act like I know any of the pop culture references my students make... or when I tried to do a difficult yoga move this morning and flew off my mat and fell on my face! Amazing. And, the teacher reminded me, you've got to fall a few times before you can fly. So you might as well just have some fun while doing it!<br />
I got to spend some time today with a good friend who is in the dredges of graduate school, internships and residential ministry.... in the midst of all the intensity, she attended a workshop on Friday about humor in the spiritual life. I am totally jealous of her, but for now, I will just have to thrive off of the wisdom of Jim Martin... here's another little nugget for you! <a href="http://ncronline.org/news/people/jesus-would-laugh-lot-says-colberts-chaplain">Enjoy</a>! Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-19311999493968950992011-10-20T19:08:00.000-04:002011-10-20T19:08:31.783-04:00How do we react when our enemies fall?Hearing the news that Moammar Gadhafi had been captured and murdered in crossfire between the government and loyalists after airstrikes, I felt mixed emotions... I want to rejoice for the people of Libya in their quest for freedom and perhaps even some type of democratic society in the future, yet I feel a bit uneasy at the thought of celebrating someone's death. I went to cnn.com and immediately a video started to play, showing a bloodied face, presumably Gadhafi, being moved in a convoy moments before his death. Is this the "right" way to respond to the death of a person? Why does our media provide the images of people, hated criminals most often, in the moments leading up to their death? I'm reminded of the video that leaked after Saddam Hussein was hung, or the debate about whether the images of Osama bin Laden after his death would be released by the US Government. Why do we want to see? Does it bring some sense of gratification or perhaps satisfaction in revenge? Or is it the sense of comfort we feel, knowing a person who is responsible for the death of hundreds, even thousands, and the downfall of entire societies can do more harm? I remember several interesting articles in the days and weeks after Osama's death- reacting to the instantaneous 'joy' across the nation and across the world... people tweeted, blogged and updated their statuses with shouts of victory over 'evil'. What is our Christian response to this reality? In a great piece in the Huffington Post, one priest remarks how he felt after Osama's death: "<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/fr-petermichael-preble/osama-is-dead_b_856392.html">So is it possible to be happy and sad at the same time? I believe it is. The very human emotion I was feeling last night was joy that he was dead. The very Christian emotion I am feeling today in the light of day is one of sadness that a life is lost and a feeling of relief that the one who brought terror to so many has been brought to justice. The rest of what I am feeling will just have to work itself out."</a><br />
I guess I just need to let it work itself out then? Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-21176749380304718062011-10-17T11:49:00.000-04:002011-10-17T11:49:28.560-04:00Finding HopeIf you turn the tv on or open the newspaper on any given day, the news is often full of doom and gloom: The economic collapse both locally and abroad, the continued spread of religious fundamentalism and violence, corruption in the public and private sectors, a local human trafficking ring prosecuted, and I won't even mention the demise of my beloved Boston Red Sox. In the midst of this reality, how do we find hope? Is it by turning off the television, ignoring the news and living in a bubble of ignorance? There are days when I think this is the best option, and find myself opting for the 'ignorance is bliss' mentality. But it can't be avoided. My husband is one of those statistics that are thrown around on the news when talking about the economic collapse: underemployed... in debt... starting out in an economic climate that is less than appealing. So, where is the hope? I find it in the people who tell their stories of starting out in similar, or even worse conditions and have seen the downturns and eventual upturns. This historical reality helps to put things in perspective, to know we are not the first young couple starting out, struggling to make ends meet... and to remind ourselves that it will get better, things will change eventually, and the key is to not lose that elusive hope or let the stress turn us against each other. A couple of years ago, I responded to a blog post about 'recession romance' and recently re-read part of my response that was published on Busted Halo: "And remember Ryan and Katie, who were wondering how to pay off law school loans, and whether to postpone their autumn nuptials? Well, Ryan applied to hundreds of legal jobs, networked, all to no avail. So he branched out: “I am happy to report that he now has a job as a supermarket manager — a paycheck and health benefits!” writes Katie. “In the end, this brought us closer than I could imagine. We realized as a couple what is really important to us, what we can live with and without. We also realized at the end of the day, we can control very little about the world, but we can control how we take care of one another and that has made all the difference.” I wish them all the best in their upcoming marriage!"<br />
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Well, we just celebrated our two year anniversary with joy and gratitude, and a little bit of anticipation about what the future will hold. Continuing to learn about ourselves and each other is a joy-filled journey and when coupled with patience and love it is working, even in the face of stress and uncertainty. Oh, and Ryan is working in the legal field (hooray!) nowadays, clerking for a judge and preparing for the next step.<br />
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Whether its economic realities, our health and family members' health or our job stability, there are many elements we can not control in life. It's accepting our lack of control that can begin to free us, to find hope and to see the bigger picture. I think it is also helpful to hear stories of triumph, of people overcoming odds and coping with difficult situations. <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/17/opinion/keller-good-news-no-really.html?src=un&feedurl=http%3A%2F%2Fjson8.nytimes.com%2Fpages%2Fopinion%2Findex.jsonp">"Good News! No, Really!"</a> is a hopeful look at the reality of life in areas that have seem extreme suffering, corruption and hopelessness through the years... but even in the darkness, there is a glimmer of hope. <br />
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Focusing on hope and the power of the individual, one of the first people that comes to mind is <a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/film/8223925/127-Hours-Aron-Ralstons-story-of-survival.html">Aron Ralston</a>. He is the inspiration for the film '127 hours', about his experience of being trapped in a canyon and eventually amputating his arm after facing death through dehydration. Holding on to hope and not giving up certainly determined his outcome. The movie is amazing and intense (I had to look away for the some of the most graphic amputation scenes...) but it captures the strength of the human spirit and the ability to survive (and even thrive) in some of the most bleak circumstances. Ralston also learned to always let his family know where he was going when he takes off for a hike!<br />
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<span class="body">"We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.</span>"<br />
<span class="bodybold">-Martin Luther King, Jr. </span><br />
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I brought myself to yoga tonight, excited about a (free!!) class focused on the theme of 'ignite'. It had been awhile, and one of the quotes our instructor shared at the end of class was about appreciating- appreciating a full moon, or the little crescent when it starts again, a kiss, laughing at yourself, and the list goes on... The many things that fled through my mind as we practiced 'corpse' pose... literally laying on the mat in darkness like a corpse for quite some time, what I appreciate: <br />
1) the laughter of my students when I describe myself as hip and edgy<br />
2) the excitement in Ryan's eyes when he samples a fresh batch of beer for the first time (pumpkin was brewed this weekend!! can't wait to drink that in a few weeks)<br />
3) the supportive community at school who encouraged the development of a faith sharing group<br />
4) the older sister who sat next to me for the first gathering of the faith sharing group and held my hand<br />
5) how excited my doggie is when I walk through the door even if I am particularly late<br />
6) spending the weekend with family and laughing so hard I cry, several times...<br />
7) being told that someone believes in me.. and then believing in myself<br />
8) listening to the radio on the way to work, and every song that comes on makes me sing along<br />
9) hiking in the woods and watching a hawk swoop overhead <br />
10) chocolate and peanut butter, together in glory!<br />
Living with intention means taking the time to smell the roses, to appreciate and focus on the positive blessings in my life. This has been a great reminder of what it's all about, and I will go to bed with a smile on my face when I think about these, among the many others, blessings I appreciate in my life.<br />
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At the event last weekend, I shared with some more people about my desire to develop a faith sharing gathering for faculty/staff/administration at school, and the idea was meet with enthusiasm, encouragement and excitement. At least I was feeling excited. So I bit the bullet and on Wednesday morning, I wrote an email (after several drafts adjusted and clarified by my bsb-best school bud) to everyone at school, explaining what I had in mind, and inviting people to come to a planning session this Tuesday (to share ideas, plan times/dates, etc.). I am willing to plan/prep the first few gatherings but would hope it becomes more collaborative (not just because I don't want the added responsibility, but because I am curious how other people encounter the divine). So I took a risk, and as soon as I clicked 'send', my heart raced. I ran across the hall to tell my fellow theology teachers that the email had been sent. Why was I suddenly so nervous? I guess I felt vulnerable, and for some reason, worried that people might make fun of me or think I am strange. Well, let's be honest, I know I am strange. But I didn't realize I was so afraid of being mocked. It was a very eye-opening moment for me. And so I try to find the balance, to maintain focus on what I believe is really most important, despite my own fears or short-comings. Maybe I need to spend some time with this whole 'fear'. We'll see what that's all about...<br />
A Sister of Saint Joseph passed away two weeks ago, and she was described by many as a spiritual base for the community. She gave a retreat to our faculty a couple of years ago, and invited us to each take a heart at the end of the day, each inscribed with different words. My heart says balance. I still have it, and still need to focus on it (obviously). Her life, her spiritual gifts, continue to be far-reaching. Balance. My heart doesn't just say balance, my heart yearns for it. Balance.<br />
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<span class="body">Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony. -Thomas Merton</span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-22856478660209031702011-09-11T14:47:00.000-04:002011-09-11T14:47:04.294-04:00Autumn in all its glory!The end of the summer is a bittersweet moment for me as a teacher. I dread the idea of waking up before the sun has come up, and the endless stacks of papers that will inevitably get backlogged and need to be graded... and yet I love the newness of the school year, a clean slate to try new things and meet new students. This year especially brings new opportunities and experiences, as I am teaching some new classes, taking on the responsibility of department chair, and as a school we are undergoing a process of accreditation that I've been talking about a lot lately. <br />
But beyond the 'back to school' stuff of autumn, there are many other things I love about this time of year. Today is the first NFL Sunday football day, and I look forward to the coming weeks of crockpot chili, apple cider and pumpkin pasta. Ryan is getting ready to brew pumpkin beer for the first time in a couple of weeks, and I can't wait to taste it! I just found a <a href="http://www.skinnytaste.com/2011/09/pumpkin-spiced-oatmeal-pecan-cookies.html">pumpkin cookie recipe</a> that might require a ride to the store right now to get some pumpkin.... And I can't wait to make butternut squash and ginger soup! Okay, so obviously the majority of things I love about this time of year involve food and beer... but that's no big surprise, really! <br />
This time of year has taken on a special meaning for our country in the last ten years as we remember and commemorate all that 'September eleventh' means for us. The media has covered a variety of stories over the last few weeks, articles about the children of those who died, recalling stories of where people were when they heard, and the touching memorials and concerts on television. It is something all Americans share in common. Yesterday we went to the local blues festival with our friends Liz and Chris. In the middle of the concert, they paused for a minute of silence... at school on Friday we paused throughout the day for silence when the first plane, the second plane, the third plane, the fourth plane hit... These moments, memories, and shared sorrow will always be a part of 9/11. And yet, it is also a powerful, tangible way for us to be united, to share in common the pain and sorrow. Sitting in the middle of a park with hundreds of people I've never met, knowing we all were sharing this moment together, sent chills up my spine. It's not the ideal way to build community and unity, and yet it is so powerful nonetheless. And I have to say, it is in those moments, when I am most proud to be an American. Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-86527508362936197442011-09-07T18:36:00.000-04:002011-09-07T18:36:08.664-04:00Storms brewing...Two weeks ago, as the east coast braced itself for the arrival of hurricane Irene, I headed to yoga. As the skies darkened the night before the arrival of the storm, the heat radiated in the yoga studio (literally, she turned off the air conditioning and it was naaasty.) In one of the positions, the instructor shared an insight that has stayed with me as a mantra every day: No matter what storm is brewing, real or imagined, we have the ability to remain centered. Now, this was perhaps a commentary on the hysteria of over-buying peanut butter, water and batteries that took hold over our area in preparation of the incoming storm. But I think it had even greater insight into how we react to the world around us. Oftentimes it is true that the anticipated storm in my life is really just a figment of my imagination, and I might (just maybe) blow things out of proportion once in awhile. Then again, sometimes the storms are real, and have the ability to knock us off our feet and lose power. But in the midst of both of these types of storms, and those that fall somewhere in between, we do have the ability, the power, and the choice to stay centered... to focus on what is really most important, and not be knocked into hysteria or panic. As the school year begins, this mantra has been especially pertinent. The newness of the school year and the crazed pace of getting everything started and set up can easily lead to unnecessary hysteria or panic. But the ability to stay centered remains.<br />
My mom passed along the news that a classmate from high school passed away after a courageous fight with breast cancer. I knew she had been sick because we used to be connected via Facebook (but as part of my 'cutting back' this spring, I deleted the majority of my 'friends', and she fell victim to my scaling back), but it was my understanding that she was well, working and living her life. As it turns out, the pictures on facebook and the postings about Phish concerts and 5K's didn't tell the full story of what was going on in her life... it seems like she was somehow able to stay centered despite the storm raging in her body. If you're looking to be inspired, and maybe a little weepy, check out her blog. <br />
<a href="http://meganpinkblog.blogspot.com/">Megan's Pink Blog</a><br />
What an amazing woman.... Rest in peace, Megan! You are such an inspiration! Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-43235324229176307822011-09-01T08:06:00.000-04:002011-09-01T08:06:40.603-04:00Focusing on what's right in the worldThis week has brought a whirlwind of conversations around the future of the school where I teach. An all-girls, Catholic, independent academy, the school has a rich tradition that spans back 153 years. As we face a changing population of students, a challenging economic climate, global reality, etc. etc there are questions swelling about the future and how we can remain competitive and true to our mission. Part of our principal's introduction to the school year focused around a short video put together by <a href="http://www.dewittjones.com/celebrate.htm">Dewitt Jones</a>, a photographer for National Geographic, emphasizing our ability to celebrate what is right in the world instead of focusing on what isn't working. Essentially, to choose to be positive and see the goodness in each 'frame' or experience in our midst. At our school, we are adapting this approach in our accreditation process but ultimately we are taking this approach in our lives. In the moments of starting a new school year, there is much to celebrate that is right in the world. It is helpful to be reminded that we have the ability to choose what we focus on and celebrate, and I am trying to bring this perspective to my classroom throughout the year. I made a little bulletin board yesterday with the tag line 'Celebrate what's right in the world', and I am going to have my seniors bring in a picture of something, somewhere, or someone that embodies what they see as right in the world- to help keep them grounded in what is right and beautiful in the world when the stress of the college process and uncertain futures weigh them down. <br />
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In the midst of the hurricane this past weekend, there were many moments to celebrate. I was moved to tears when a fellow teacher from school called me Saturday night to see if Ryan and I needed to evacuate, and welcomed us to stay at her home. Our old neighborhood in Philadelphia is prone to flooding, and some of the people right on the river were encouraged to evacuate, but fortunately we weren't affected in our new neighborhood. Her thoughtfulness and generosity really overwhelmed me... would I have done that? As I start the new year and might feel a bit daunted by the new responsibilities and courses I am teaching, I certainly need to celebrate what is right at my work- the amazing people who have become my family, and who go out of their way to love and care for one another.<br />
One final thought on what is right in my world... as the new year started and I found myself in the new position of department chair, we had our first departmental meeting this week. I was feeling nervous and excited to tell my colleagues in the theology department about the idea of starting a faith sharing group for faculty. When I tell you they were enthusiastic, I am understating their reaction... Not only did they want to participate and help develop it, but they helped me to trust this is a need in our school and creating the space for authentic community to flourish will be valuable. Even if three of us gather, they pointed out that it is worth it and will be blessed. They emphasized we should do it twice a month, don't wait until the middle of the year to start, etc. etc... the passion was palpable and contagious. What a gift to be surrounded by such supportive and amazing people! <br />
Celebrating what is right in this world.... <br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-69775073329314015902011-08-24T08:55:00.000-04:002011-08-24T08:55:33.393-04:00Smile, smile, smile....Mother Teresa said a lot of beautiful things about smiles, and here are three of my favorites:<br />
<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="sqq">“Let us alw</span><span class="sqq">ays meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.</span>"</div><h1 style="font-family: inherit; font-weight: normal; margin: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: small;">“Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”</span></h1><h1 style="font-family: inherit; font-weight: normal; margin: 0pt; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: small;">"Peace begins with a smile." </span></h1><br />
Driving home from getting my back cracked on Monday, I found myself to be ultra-attentive to the people in the cars around me. I don't really know why, as I pass hundreds, if not thousands of people on the roads everyday without a second thought (that sounds kind of sad to me for some reason). But for some reason, I was feeling observant and connected to the people around me. I sat at a red light and looked at the middle-aged man sitting in his truck next to me. He look stressed or annoyed at something, but as I thought more about it (and creepily stared at him) it appeared his face might have just been in a permanent scowl/frown. How does that happen? Was he born frowning, or has his face and its many muscles trained themselves over time, due to his general disposition, to rest in the frown position? I started thinking about myself, trying to casually glance at myself in the rearview mirror to see what my 'resting face' looked like. (This obviously did not work, as I just 'happened' to be smiling from ear to ear.) I remember being in high school and thinking about this same phenomenon, that some people seem to always be smiling or grinning, and others seem to be caught in a perpetual frown. An influential teacher and minister in my life when I was in high school had pronounced lines on the sides of her eyes. I now know they are called 'crow's feet', but at the time, I thought of them as smile lines. It was as though she was always taking in the wonder around her (I was usually with her in the context of prayer and retreat experiences) with an open heart and a sense of awe and gratitude. When I reached 'middle age', I wanted to have smile lines, too, and hoped to greet the world with awe, wonder and gratitude. <br />
I've been obsessing about this idea of smiling since the yoga teacher meditated and challenged me on it last week. Like, when I am pushing myself on a run and feeling the burn in my lungs, to smile... and give a spot of thanks for the ability to run. When the driver (I thought was letting my into his lane and gave him a wave out the window) gives me a 'thumbs down' sign (at least it wasn't another hand gesture...), I smile and hope to soften the tension between us. Actually, I laughed out loud. Ooops. Or when I encounter someone who seems stuck in a perpetual scowl, to affirm them and try to give them reason to smile. One of my colleagues shared this<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cbk980jV7Ao"> youtube video</a> with our department last Christmas. (the next time you have 15 minutes, you must watch this... and invite people to watch with you! Seriously, it seems a little goofy in the beginning but it is AMAZING!) It has become one of my favorite resources in the classroom, and even inspired a collaboration between my seniors and a freshman class to, together, wallpaper our lockers at school with notes of affirmation and beauty. It makes me smile just thinking about it. What if I made it a point to greet every morning with a smile? It's easy in these summer months when my schedule and workload is a bit more flexible and low key.... but as the school year commences, I hope to celebrate with a smile. But maybe the greatest challenge is to maintain that smile, or at least appreciation, as the day goes (or drags) on. In the <u>Happiness Project</u>, one of the questions she considered focused on whether some people are just intrinsically happier than others or is it a conscious choice in how people react to situations in their life? There are various arguments and viewpoints on either end, as well as many who think it is a combination of both. What I've found true in my own life is that there are many things outside of my control, but one thing within my control is how I react to situations. It's often a battle against my emotions, and it can be challenging, but being mindful, prayerful, reflective and intentional can allow us (or at least me) to choose how we react. It takes time, to step back from situations, even if it just taking a deep breath after the guy gave me a thumbs down on the road, instead of reacting with frustration or annoyance, and laughing at the situation and his funny gesture. Honestly, it makes me feel better to laugh or smile than to complain and fill myself with tension and frustration. So, smile smile smile! (you'll find that song sticks in your head after you watch the video... or maybe it's just after watching it a million times like I have)! <br />
Or, you could take W.C. Fields' approach: <i><span style="font-family: georgia,bookman old style,palatino linotype,book antiqua,palatino,trebuchet ms,helvetica,garamond,sans-serif,arial,verdana,avante garde,century gothic,comic sans ms,times,times new roman,serif;">Start every day with a smile and get it over with. </span></i><br />
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After picking up some rations at the market on Saturday, I spent a good portion of today cooking (while Ryan brewed a yummy Saison). I made some (low fat) chewy granola bars, some oatmeal bread, rosemary flatbreads that I smeared with fresh goat cheese, pesto and sundried tomatoes, and then we had some fresh edamame. I'd only ever had edamame from a frost-bitten bag before (and remember being troubled a couple of years ago when Trader Joe's took it off their shelves... when I asked why, I was told that they were getting it from China so they wanted to find an importer that had higher, um, standards of their exported products) and they were delightfully fresh after I got all the dirt and grime off of the pods and removed the stems. Purchasing food from the people who actually lifted it out of the ground, or buying salmon from the couple who actually live in Alaska for 6 weeks a year (yes, I want their life) and then transport it to various markets and shops in PA, made the system of relationships that brings food to my table quite tangible.<br />
As I prepare for the new school year and pick up some clothes, I feel compelled to consider these same themes as I buy clothing and shoes. Whose hands will contribute to making my clothes, from the cotton growing in the fields to the driver of the truck to my local Kohl's? And how much of my payment will go to repay them for their labor? If only the farmer's market sold clothing, this might be a whole lot easier to expand my local lifestyle to my clothing.<br />
What if I considered this every time I made a purchase? As we face a global economic market that is just barely staying afloat, maybe there is something we can all learn from the chic phenomenon of buying local. An Iowa-based nonprofit recently released a <a href="http://www.philly.com/philly/living/green/20110817_Reports_says_farmers__markets_add_up_to_big_money.html">study</a> about the huge (positive) economic impact that farmers' markets have on local economies. Now I am no economist, but I imagine if the federal government focused some of its funding and subsidies on these farms instead of giving the majority to large-scale industrial farms who mostly export their products, the result might just boost our local economies. Those are my wonderings on living locally, courtesy of little old me :)<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-80224829135474730292011-08-20T08:54:00.000-04:002011-08-20T08:54:50.418-04:00Duty to DelightI just finished reading Gregory Boyle's <u>Tattoos on the Heart</u> (just in time for the start of school, since I did assign it for my summer reading group...) and found myself laughing, crying, and being moved as I turned each page. This was one of those 'can't put down' books that was wrapped up within a 24 hour period- but it will continuously be picked up again. Fr. Boyle is a Jesuit living in LA, known for his work with gangs that have plagued the community for decades through his organization 'Homeboy Industries'. His ministry started out as a parish priest, working to keep the peace in the midst of two of the most dangerous rival gangs through dialogue, compassion, and aligning himself with the kids in the gangs. He dove in head over heels, particularly early on in his time within the community, riding his bike through the neighborhoods at all hours of the night, nearly missing some drive-bys through the years. As he listened to the 'homies', he heard a theme: they needed jobs. And as he says, sometimes you can understand why they might not be getting jobs. He describes a young boy, recently released from prison, who is frustrated that he can't get hired anywhere. Fr. Boyle imagines him ringing up an order at McDonald's as mothers scurry their children out of the store sans hamburgers: the boy's forehead is tattooed 'F--- the world'. So, in addition to creating job opportunities and training, Homeboy Industries provides tattoo removal. Most of the homies have gang-affiliations tattooed all over their body, so this is an important step in their movement beyond the gang lifestyle. The jobs span through various industries and Homeboy Industries themselves have a screen-printing business, cafe and bakery among others. I could write for hours about Fr. Boyle, but I will let you read for <a href="http://www.homeboy-industries.org/">yourself</a>. Pick up the book while you're at it! Right<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Tattoos-Heart-Power-Boundless-Compassion/dp/1439153027"> here</a>!<br />
Amidst the heartbreaking stories of young men who turned their lives around and were still gunned down, or the kids who couldn't shake the gang and drug-filled lifestyle, there is endless humor and irony, as well as redemption and new life. It is a very sacramental book and threads themes of birth and death throughout. Fr. Boyle quotes Dorothy Day, who quoted Ruskin, that we all have a <i>duty to delight</i>... "an admonition, really, to be watchful for the hilarious and heartwarming, the silly and the sublime. This way will not pass again, and so there is a duty to be mindful of that which delights and keeps joy at the center, distilled from all that happens to us in a day (Boyle, p.148)." He tells two hilarious stories to illustrate this concept. Fr. Boyle is being interviewed on air at a local radio station in LA. A caller is brought on the line, and he recoginizes the name as one of the homies working for him. As they take the call, the boy explains that he can't make it to work today. He calls out from work... by calling into a radio talk show. Um, okay. Kind of hilarious. But really, the best story... another young man called out (to the office) from work one day and told the woman who took the call that he was suffering from anal blindness. What is that? Oh, "I just can't see my ass coming to work today." I will have to remember that the next time I need a mental health day! Love it!<br />
Even in the midst of a frustrating day, moments of despair or uncertainty, we have a duty to delight. To laugh at ourselves or the hilarity of life... Like as I was walking out of yoga last night feeling very zen-like as the rain drops fell, and I approached the crosswalk, clearly marked with signs to yield to pedestrians... and one, two, three, four cars fly by. I wave my hand, like come on guys! GRRR! And then I laugh, at myself and the irony of being at peace and centered, and letting the littlest thing fire me up. I relished and delighted in my humanity, my imperfections and my beauty. The focus of the yoga practice for the evening had been to smile, and I had the biggest, most genuine smile on my face when I (finally) crossed the street.<br />
<span style="font-family: verdana,arial,helvetica; font-size: x-small;"><span style="color: #333333; font-family: verdana,arial,helvetica; font-size: x-small;">How necessary it is to cultivate a spirit of joy. It is a psychological truth that the physical acts of reverence and devotion make one feel devout. The courteous gesture increases one's respect for others. To act lovingly is to begin to feel loving, and certainly to act joyfully brings joy to others which in turn makes one feel joyful. I believe we are called to the duty of delight. -Dorothy Day</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-55309854883477261752011-08-17T09:04:00.000-04:002011-08-17T09:04:27.713-04:00Back to school!Almost two months ago, I posted about my participation in the Jesuit Collaborative gathering in Philadelphia. This experience challenged me to look at my perspective about faith and community at work. I was overcome with jealousy when I heard about the different 'Ignatian Leadership Programs' at some Jesuit schools for faculty/staff, students, and even parents (all separate gatherings) and the faith sharing and prayer groups focused on the spiritual exercises. And I pondered the question: Do I jump ship and find a job where these amazing programs are already in existence and thriving, or do I consider taking the risks involved in fostering that culture (which may already exist) and similar opportunities at my current school? I made the commitment and choice to look into creating it at my school. So, it's time to hold myself accountable. Where have I gone with that? Other than a few dreamy conversations with friends in the field of ministry, with Ryan, and even with a few former students, I haven't 'done' anything. And, the clock is ticking as our first back to school meetings are in just two short weeks. AHHH!! I ended up with a surprise day off from babysitting today, and I will spend the day doing some back to school planning and conversing with colleagues. Keeping myself grounded in a positive and open attitude is most important... Imagine the possibilities and embrace the growth. I am truly blessed to be in a school that is full of people who are vibrant, passionate about the school and the mission, and who have a lot of fun together, too! I just get a little nervous whenever trying something new that puts me in a vulnerable position. I guess that's human, but I am sick of it holding me back from taking the risk and letting the spirit do the rest. There's not much time left to ponder, it's time to start taking some action steps!<br />
"Beautiful is the moment in which we understand that we are no more than an instrument of God; we live only as long as God wants us to live; we can only do as much as God makes us able to do; we are only as intelligent as God would have us be." -Archbishop Oscar Romero<br />
I end with this quote as one of my former students departs for El Salvador today, for a semester abroad. I am inspired by her faith and commitment and courage! Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-23245233478787914592011-08-14T16:26:00.000-04:002011-08-14T16:26:34.413-04:00Focusing on the positiveOne of the goals I set out at the beginning of my "last year as a twenty-something" challenged me to spend more time, energy and thought on the positive in all aspects of life (relationships, work, life, faith, community, etc.). A beautiful and somewhat over-used phrase, 'focus on the positive' reminds me of my dad giving me advice about sports... when I felt frustrated that I didn't get to play long in a game, he encouraged me to focus on the positive of being a part of a team with such great friends and coaches. When I turn this timeless wisdom over to my personal life, it is a little bit more difficult to practice. It's like a phrase you'd see on a greeting card for 'encouragement' or under a generic picture in a gift shop. But as I've been reflecting on this theme over the last few days, it has become much more real and life-giving in some of the relationships in my life. Now if I asked the people involved in those relationships, they may not have noticed a difference in me and/or our relationship. However, I have felt a difference, in my heart and in my affection towards other people (whether it is expressed through action or merely in how my heart feels when I think about them).<br />
There are often moments when I am around certain family members that I just feel disconnected. Perhaps I assume we have little in common, or that if I tell them what is really on my mind they won't understand or appreciate what I say. Often it has to do with differences in communication. I am talker, a thinker and now, a writer. I try to be expressive about my feelings and emotions and find it sometimes difficult to relate to people who don't share this way of being. I talk to my parents at least 3-4 times a week, and they tend to know what is going on in my daily life (like what I had for dinner, who I saw over the weekend, etc) in addition to knowing how I'm feeling emotionally and spiritually. Ryan does not have that same relationship with his parents, although he and I do have that type of relationship with each other (thank goodness!) but what I have learned is that it does not mean they love Ryan (and I) any more or less than my parents. Instead, they express their love and affection differently... but the feeling of love is not any less than what I have with my parents. This was so obvious to me a couple of weeks ago when Ryan and I were moving. As the move came up suddenly and it was a dreaded weekend in the summer in Philadelphia when most people who can run for the beach, we found ourselves struggling to find friends to help with the move. Ryan phoned his parents, who had offered to help, and asked if they wouldn't mind coming. Initially they would just meet us at the new place to unload the truck but as the move got closer we realized we'd probably need them to help load, too. Thankfully a couple of friends were able to help as well (you rock!) but we would not have been able to do it with their help of carrying things, and Ryan's dad's expertise in loading a moving truck (going back to his high school days as a mover in the summers). Not only that, but after we unloaded the last item from the truck, Ryan's mom unloaded rations from her car... still warm homemade fried chicken, an array of delicious sides and chips, even plates, napkins and utensils. The thoughtfulness, generosity and kindness brings a tear to my eye as I write this. When you're in the middle of transition (and will likely not be able to cook for a series of days- which, if you know Ryan and I, is pretty miserable) there is really nothing as great as a home-cooked meal. That is love. Expressed differently than I was used to perhaps, but it is love. My parents, on the otherhand, chuckled when I asked them when they'd be in town to help move.... but their love was shown through several phone calls (sometimes in one day) to encourage, or let me vent about the massive amount of stuff that still needed to get done, etc. etc... and they will show their love by taking us out when they fly down to visit once we are all settled! I should mention they don't leave MA in the summer- the time of the year when they truly love living in New England :) Lucky them! <br />
Focusing on the positive, being open to and receiving something as it is instead of wishing it was something else, is a mantra that I hope to maintain in all of my relationships. I was sharing this thought with my friend (previously mentioned, the amazing woman with her second set of twins keeping her busy... as well as the 2 year old boys) and she told a story that just hit it on the head for me. Her sister-in-law was described as an 'ultra-conservative' who, as my friend described, sounded like someone who was not open-minded and would be difficult to have a conversation with unless you agreed with her viewpoints. My friend does not agree with her, and said she would not necessarily choose to be friends with her. But, her sister-in-law will randomly call her up, and just say something to the effect of: "You are amazing. You are doing such a good job with your children, and I admire you for all that you are doing." Though they might not kick back with a glass of wine and share the state of their hearts with one another, the essence of that phone call is love... true, unconditional love. That is what we should hold on to. Instead of doing what I sometimes do, wishing that a relationship could be different. This might mean with a friend, wishing we saw each other more often, or wishing I kept better in touch with my friends who live far away, beating myself up for what I haven't done to maintain relationships. Though there is merit in seeing ways we can improve our relationships and communication, sometimes it is most important just sit back and, focus on the positive. It leaves me in a much better mood than when I focus on the negative, and that's got merit in my book. <br />
One last thought... last night, Ryan and I got together with a friend and her two friends from work. Ryan was the only guy present (and though he did do a double check on the way there to make sure he wasn't crashing a ladies' night) and it just made me sit back in gratitude for what an amazing man I've married. I left the party for a moment to powder my nose, and I just thought to myself, I am so freaking lucky. Ryan is hilarious, kind, open-minded and considerate. He was the first to jump up to wash dishes, the first to laugh at himself when I started sharing embarrassing stories of our last fight, engaging in stories of pregnancy & fertility (one was pregnant, one is trying- not us on either count!), relationships and just being himself. Though I definitely wouldn't say I focus on the negative in our relationship, I don't always celebrate the positive as much as I should... perhaps I take things for granted. What a graced moment, to be a witness to what an amazing husband I have. Okay, enough of the gushing. But seriously, let's just focus on the positive!<br />
I had to share a cheesy inspirational poster to round it all out:<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-60716631414272606402011-08-13T08:40:00.000-04:002011-08-13T08:40:02.215-04:00Give yourself permissionLast night I indulged myself in trying out the 'live music' yoga class in my new 'hood. My father is a regular yoga practitioner, attending classes like clockwork three times a week for several years now. I've taken a few classes with him when our schedules have allowed, but I have never caught the passion for yoga quite as he has. I think part of my reason for that is that I think of yoga as an indulgence... it costs money to have a 'good' yoga teacher. There was a time that our local gym had an awesome teacher, but since she moved to NYC a couple of years ago, I've been unable to find someone I like (and who teaches classes in the evenings). I'd never considered a yoga studio before, though I listened to some of my friends talk about it and it sounded like a heavenly experience. When I saw the sign for 'Friday night live music yoga' for just $6, I figured it would be spending less than if I went to happy hour so I might as well give it a try!<br />
In the last few weeks, I've been internalizing a bit of frustration over some issues with my back. Getting some x-rays this week (just to have, as the doctor said) and spending an excessive amount of time at the hospital where I got them done led me to enter what I may call panic mode. I watched people go by with canes or in wheelchairs and I wondered if/when that would be me. I felt pangs of guilt associated with these thoughts, as I told myself I should be grateful that I can even walk, see, talk, etc. I wondered when I'd be able to run again (I have a 10K mud run coming up to celebrate our second anniversary of marriage- romantic, I know). I thought about how sick I am of going to get treatments on my back 3-4 times a week, and that they seem to be set back by things out of my control (like having to give my dog a bath after she rolled in poop on our walk earlier this week... lifting a 45 lb dog into the tub- twice since she escaped the first time- is something I used to be able to do easily) and then I was berating myself again for being so selfish, feeling sorry for myself when really, my problems aren't all that bad in the end. <br />
As I sweated, stretched and deepened my mindfulness last night at yoga, the musicians played an acoustic rendering of Bob Marley's Three Little Birds. The refrain, 'every little thing's gonna be alright' warmed my soul. I literally felt an air of peace, acceptance and surrender come over my body, my mind and my heart. The tension in my shoulders, my jaw, and my lower back loosened. As the yoga practice wrapped up and I lay on my back, I considered how healing and challenging this past hour had been for me. I realized that I needed to give myself permission to practice yoga or to find other things that helped my back and my spirit cope with whatever is going on in my body. Most importantly, I need to stop dismissing my concerns or holding them up against the concerns or problems of others to somehow prove their worthiness or unworthiness. <br />
As Ryan pointed out to me last night, yoga will be a way for me to not only release the tension and challenge myself physically... it will also be a way to center myself and release the tension I hold related to stress, anxiety, and everything else. Who knows, that just might be part of the problem with my back in the end. Either way, I am giving myself permission to indulge and do something for me... no altruism here, just self-care. And that's not a bad thing. <br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1668150409101543226.post-12973311594964288622011-08-12T09:47:00.000-04:002011-08-12T09:47:10.081-04:00"And a little child will lead them"Over the last couple of weeks, the news has been overwhelmingly drab about the financial crisis, S & P ratings and stock market losses. I'm trying not to pay too much attention or allow myself to worry more than I already do about money because I remember the wisdom of a billboard on the PA turnpike just as you are heading into NJ: Hysteria feeds recession. Chill out. I love it. So I am trying to chill out and keep things in perspective... and then this little girl named Rachel has popped up on my radar, providing the leadership, perspective and 'reality check' that we all need.<br />
Rachel was a young and spunky kid who, in lieu of her ninth birthday, asked friends to donate $9 to a project that provided clean water to kids who didn't otherwise have that access. She couldn't believe that people didn't have clean water, and so she wanted to do something about it. This spirit of philanthropy and compassion started years prior when she learned about Locks for Love at age 5, and insisted on cutting her long hair to donate for kids with cancer whose hair fell out due to chemotherapy. She did it several times. Until a couple of weeks ago, when Rachel was in a car with her family that was hit by a truck and she was critically injured. Her story circulated, and according to an article in the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/08/11/opinion/rachels-last-fund-raiser.html?_r=2&nl=todaysheadlines&emc=tha212">NYTimes</a>, contributions continue to pour in, having raised over $850,000 to date for clean water efforts. The selflessness, courage and consideration of this young girl and the challenge that her short life provides to all of us worried about credit ratings and interest rates is multi-layered. On one level, she acted- she didn't just think. How often do I see a story or a foundation and think, I should donate or volunteer? But really, how often do I actually do something? On another level, Rachel's life is not about building up our level of security and comfort for ourselves. Rather, she lived for others, making sacrifices and giving freely without seeking anything in return. There is something pure, authentic and yet so challenging about her life. I wish our political and economic leaders could read her story and have a little reality check. I know it helped change my perspective a bit. Thanks Rachel, you are a leader in the truest sense of the word. Rest in Peace.<br />
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